What are some signs that a therapist may have poor boundaries with their clients?
Last Updated: 20.06.2025 03:20
Obsessing about clients outside of work hours.
Session-expressed curiosities about client details not relevant to the therapy.
General Introduction to Boundaries from Panahi Counseling:
Have you ever lied to your family? What were the circumstances?
Off the top of my ancient head:
Eager anticipation (or anxious anticipation) of the next session in ways that distract.
Struggling with fantasies of deeper connections with clients, whether sexual or parental or other intense or intimate relationships beyond psychotherapy.
Why do men cheat on their wives with someone extremely unattractive?
Disclosing feelings, fantasies, and experiences to the client in ways not related to the work the client is engaged in.
Routinely going over the time limit with certain patients, compromising the time for the next client.
Frequent phoning or texting of clients to “check up on them and make sure they’re OK.”
What did Rama tell Sita about Kaliyug?
Sense of competition with persons who are important in the client’s life.
Failing to mention the client in supervision/consultation, out of fear the supervisor/consultant will advise return to ordinary healthy boundaries.
These items can happen fleetingly, briefly, in any therapy, but if they’re frequent, it’s definitely time for the therapist to get some good, solid supervision/consultation.
Can you write a letter to your first love without mentioning his/her name?
Serious disappointment when the client cancels a session.